Updated: Aug 13
The moment you decide to deviate from the pre-approved path of society, you will absolutely be met with judgement. Which is interesting, isn't it? The fact that we, as human beings, can choose to simply try something new, only to be lambasted by the world for doing so.
While studying Psychology in college, I had two favorite subjects: Self-Identity and Judgement.
It should be no surprise that these are as tightly woven as a wicker basket — that the unique and often flawed way you perceive yourself is correlated with how judgmental and critical you are of other people. That the more judgmental you are, the more insecure you are, too.
There are three basic reasons people tend to judge: self-esteem issues; self-righteousness; and of course, jealousy.
Now, if you're here, it's likely because you're pursuing a creative career — which means you have most likely experienced your fair share of being judged by your rule-following counterparts (and as a side note, rule-breaking is a personality trait correlated with being a leader as opposed to a follower, so there's that). I know I certainly have, but it doesn't bother me. For some reason, even as a child, I've been motivated by judgement. I've always interpreted it as my being bold enough to try something my judger is too much of a chicken-shit to try for themselves — which has been the source of my own judgment of others for as long as I can remember.
Which brings me to the point of this blog post: analyzing our own reasons for judging others and being honest with ourselves about those reasons is singlehandedly one of the most eye-opening and enlightening gifts we can give ourselves.
This is a short post today, but there isn't much left to say — let's take some time to delve deeper into the way we treat other people, and why. Let's analyze our excuses, see them for what they really are, and let's change. Get better. Grow and improve.
And if you're struggling with feeling judged by somebody else, always remember — it has much less to do with you than it has to do with them, their own issues, and primarily, their own host of insecurities.